DAOS-18866 vos: return nonexist error

[NiuYawei]

vos_obj_incarnate() should return DER_NONEXIST error when CREATE flag isn't present.

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[github-actions]

Ticket title is 'ior/hard.py:IorHardBasic.test_ior_hard - ior No space left on device'
Status is 'In Progress'
Labels: 'ci_master_weekly,ucx_provider,weekly_test'
https://daosio.atlassian.net/browse/DAOS-18866

[Nasf-Fan]

The patch is fine. But I cannot understand why the original logic will cause PMEM trouble.

[janekmi]

This patch looks ok-ish but:

1. This very odd such a bug won't cause a lot more serious issues.
2. It is a little frightening we do not have a unit test covering this scenario.
3. This does not solve the DAOS-18866 issue but something interesting has happened. For the first time I see one of the test cases actually PASSed. Till now either all of them have failed or all of them have PASSed. I will re-test to confirm this effect.

Ref: https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net/job/daos-stack/job/daos/view/change-requests/job/PR-18192/13/testReport/FTEST_ior/IorHardBasic/

[NiuYawei]

This patch looks ok-ish but:

1. This very odd such a bug won't cause a lot more serious issues.

2. It is a little frightening we do not have a unit test covering this scenario.

3. **This does not solve the DAOS-18866 issue** but something interesting has happened. For the first time I see one of the test cases actually PASSed. Till now either all of them have failed or all of them have PASSed. I will re-test to confirm this effect.

Ref: https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net/job/daos-stack/job/daos/view/change-requests/job/PR-18192/13/testReport/FTEST_ior/IorHardBasic/

Thanks @janekmi . I guess it could be related to the unconditional punch changes. I updated to PR to return -DER_NONEXIST before starting tx when possible (which mimics the original behavior), could retry and see if it could fully solve the issue? Thanks in advance.

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Test stage Unit Test completed with status UNSTABLE. https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net/job/daos-stack/job/daos//view/change-requests/job/PR-18219/2/testReport/

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Test stage Unit Test bdev completed with status UNSTABLE. https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net/job/daos-stack/job/daos//view/change-requests/job/PR-18219/2/testReport/

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Test stage Unit Test with memcheck completed with status UNSTABLE. https://jenkins-3.daos.hpc.amslabs.hpecorp.net/job/daos-stack/job/daos//view/change-requests/job/PR-18219/2/testReport/